Unhooking From Caretaking

How are we in relationship with others? How do we live a fulfilled authentic life while in relationship with others?

Not always easy to do this relationship thing. The terrific news is that now is the time to probably change all that you thought you knew about relationships. Now is the time to unhook.

So often we learned to do some funky things with our energy regarding relationships. Imagine you, standing tall and filled with a stream of energy. That is your energy that you channel from the Universe, Life Force, or whatever you want to name it. When we get in relationship we often get distracted from nourishing ourselves first with this vital Life Force. We look out at everyone else around us and then we try to figure out what they want from us. We try to nourish them and care-take them. When we do this we leak our Life Force energy out of our amazing powerful stream of energy and put it out there, like tentacles, to try to attach to others. We also try to feed others from our own direct line, hoping that then they will either be ours, we will be accepted by them, or we can somehow keep them safe.

Everyone has their own stream of energy and everyone must figure out how to plug themselves in to the Universal Life Force. This Energy Source is always available by the way...we just can just have an understanding that we always receive it. It is disempowering  to others if we try to do it for anyone but ourselves. It gets messy because then we have all these energy lines crisscrossing and causing overloads! Who is attached to whom and why? People can get overwhelmed, confused, needy, and  frustrated with all their energy bleeding out to everyone around them.

Keep it clean! Let's keep our energy stream aligned and healthy. We can do this by having fun, being proud of ourselves, smiling for others to see, living our passion, experiencing and engaging in the world authentically as us. We must be sure that we are charged up. Feel our inner strength. Notice what it feels like in our body. Carry that connection with ourselves in every moment. We can go to those places and be with those people who resonate with our highest vibrational energy. Life Force Energy is every where and everyone. We just should be sure that we are being filled and animated by it. In doing this, other people's ability to find their energetic connection will be triggered. There is no need, then, to enmesh ourselves with another. Everyone has access to Life Force Energy at all times.

That is how we unhook from our ego needs to hook into others. When we lose who we are, what we love, enjoyment of our own unique passions, and try to fill in to meet the needs of others, we are hooked! We are the only ones who can unhook. We can pay attention to when our tentacles reach out to others and we limit our joy, happiness, and sense of settled peace because we are hooked in and caretaking others. We unhook ourselves, then we empower others. Believe in them to be well, and they will be. Unhook and fly!